This energy is “I want to destroy you or set you free”. They love and hate each other. One will stop for the other to continue. In fact, one tends to be hurt by the other. One may challenge the other person very often. Disbalance dynamic. They need to solve things with logic not fears, pain, or emotions.
For a man: His Lilith is judgy; he may fear the woman; he sees her behaviors as too much and erratic, yet he feels called to be with her. He is like that too. He may preach to “hate” her, but he dreams and fantasizes about her. His little dirty secret. His motto: destroy her or set her free.
For a woman: Lilith knows he dislikes her, but he wants to make her go nuts. It’s a war and she wants to win. It is not easy because she will not stop. However, she may think she is better than him, but she would fall too. Her motto: destroy him or set him free; there is not a middle ground.